Hi Shannon, (I assume your name is Shannon)

I'm just checking in with you. Lola's info seems to be right on. A lot of us know what you are feeling. The loss. The hurt. How could he do this to you? We all ask these questions, feel these feelings.

None of this is easy, we know. It affects every minute of your day, and reaches into every corner of your life.

I understand how you feel about questioning your faith. I think we have all done that here too. This whole thing is a nightmare in which we never seem to wake up.

Please hang in there! It is bad now, but it will get better for you. Things may turn out different than you want, or you may someday be pleasantly surprised - regardless, things will get better. Yes, it will probably take some time, but it won't always feel this way.

There's a lot of good advice on this forum. Please take care of yourself, and share with others here.


Me: 46
W: 46
M: 9.5 yrs
D4, D9
D filed by her 11/3/08
Agrees to try rec at mediation 1/28/09
Says she still wants D in counseling 3/25/09
W and I back in DB counseling (!) 8/20/09
3rd Bomb 9/2/09