WAW/Affair Exposed - Advice? #3

[DCBHM]

D1 was playing by herself in the nursery this morning. I poked my head around the corner and said "Who's here?" and she said "Da da" and walked around to me. I picked her up and she laid her head on my shoulder. I sat down in a rocking chair and rocked her for about five minutes while she said "da da" a bunch. Eventually she slid down and went to play with some toys. I snapped a picture on my cell phone of her sticking her tongue out. I crawled around on the floor for a bit with her, and tried to get her interested in something else when I left but she started crying. I picked her up and handed her to one of the workers who kept her attention while I left.

I also handed Queen W my monthly tribute (child support). She looked less than thrilled but said "thank you." She is also looking as if there is the possibility of a pregnancy by OM, which may further short-circuit her case.

I met with my IC yesterday... and that went well. I have made a lot of progress since our last meeting. Most people allow themselves to become enmeshed in these relationships, and I found that I always keep a solid sense of self and don't lose myself to relying on someone else. I have been distancing myself quite effectively recently, especially since she didn't bother checking in on the boys on Mother's Day.

The good news is that I've completely altered the dynamics of W's case. The only bad news is that I've been so effective at doing so the Judge has ordered a drop of all the b.s. delay tactics and has set my D for trial in July. The average length of these where I live is 1.5 years. I'm going to knock it out in 5 months. Two months ago my attorney told me to "seriously consider" giving W $8,000 for guaranteed every other weekend visitation with D1 for 60 days. Now I'm on the verge of taking everything I asked for in my answer/counter-claim.

My attorneys have been trying to keep up with me, and I've been regularly checking in with them on my weak points. I've got several more surprises to hit them with shortly, so if anyone needs "war mode" consultation later on let me know.

This isn't how I wanted my M to end up. But W has given me no time to even catch my breath, much less make any overtures towards even maintaining a friendly relationship with me. I absolutely will not pull any punches when it comes to making sure I have a relationship with D1. W would have been happy cutting me out completely.

I wouldn't be surprised if she now refuses to participate in the D.