I read your words: "Be patient. He wants you too"and used it last night when I was w/my lady friend. It was really, really helpful and allowed me to completely relax.
Last night it became very clear to me that this lady is indeed very much interested in me as well. I've been going through a bit of a "vetting" process w/her friends and have passed w/flying colors. She's been talking about me to her friends and the reports have been good.
So, I guess it was good for me to see your words when I did. I kept the words in my head and found out they were spot on. She does want to be w/me as well, so all I have to do is be patient and let things happen.
It feels good to be in this situation again, but I'm still going to be careful and not jump in too soon to anything serious. I will be completely sure of everything before I do something that may end up backfiring in the long run.
Been there and not planning on repeating the past. Learning from it? Yes. Repeating it? No way.
Believe me it is not often that I am granted such clarity, so I am glad that I could pass that on to you. Just knowing that, calmed me down and has given me that little boost I needed to carry on.
You are going to be fine. You have gained so many good "tools" through this process. It is their time and they will serve you well.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hey RTL, just thought I would chime in. There are plenty of people out there that would like nothing more than a good companion like you. I hear what you are saying about the coming on too strong too fast issue. However, do not let it consume you. Just be yourself. If she like swhat she sees all the better. May as well find out early if you guys are compatable. In my brief experience on the dating scene, I try to just be myself. I may have come on a little strong once or twice and may have scared a few ladies, however, I do not look back. Live and learn and above all enjoy your time with the new lady. If there is one thing that I learned in all this process, it is that there are no guarantees and we all need to drop the what ifs....
Yes, my tool box is getting quite full, but I'm also able to throw out the old tools I used in the past b/c most of them no longer seem to work when I need to fix something.
Your words have been calming for me and in the past few days, she's opened up to me a bit and let me know how she feels. So, I'm much more relaxed when it comes to dating her right now.
No need to be jealous. You are a Bond girl, for God's sake!
I laughed w/the reference to "harder" as I know where both of our dirty minds were wandering. However, no sex as of yet. We're still feeling the relationship out and neither one wants to rush into anything. However, we click now, so there is some anticipation about moving forward.
John, I agree w/being yourself too, but I've also learned to "dial it down a bit" at first. I'm not pretending to be something I'm not, but what I am doing is not giving out too much too soon. After chasing a few away before, I'm discovering that letting things seep out rather than pour out helps to build the chemistry and attraction.
So, I've been being "me" but just at a bit slower pace. So far, with this one, it is working. Ex: I sent her a text asking how she was doing and she replied asking if I was texting b/c I missed her. I replied with "maybe a little" and she came back with "I was hoping for a lot."
She's getting ready to move and had an issue prop up w/her daughter in the past few days, so she asked me to "hang in there w/her for a little bit" and she's hoping I won't run.
She told me she is "really liking what I'm seeing now" and she hopes "I'm real and won't change." So, I can safely say she likes me, which is nice b/c I'm getting into her too.
I'm enjoying her and she likes me, so it is so far so good in my world right now.
On the XW front, we're dealing w/pensions, so I've given her everything of mine and done it quickly and openly, but she's dragging her feet a bit in collecting information on her salaries. Anyone surprised? Me neither.
Today I pick up D and then she has her Kindergarten graduation tomorrow. I took the day off work, so she'll be able to sleep in a bit longer as I don't have to have her to school until 9. Her Graduation starts at 10:30 then she's out for the day w/me after that.
D wants us to take XW to lunch w/us so we can celebrate her graduation as a "family" so I said yes. It is fine w/me to have XW there as I think she should be, to tell you the truth.
Tomorrow night, D and I are going to go see 38 Special, REO Speedwagon, and Styx here in Phoenix b/c the band manager for REO has his kid in my class. So, he's set us up w/great seats and some backstage stuff. I'll have ear plugs for D, but I'm thinking she'll like hearing the band live and dancing to the rhythms. If not, we'll leave and not worry as the seats were free!
So, that is what I've got in store for me today and tomorrow and I'm looking forward to these events w/D.
Sounds like a cool concert. Hard to believe those groups are still around and touring. What amazes me is that Portland's own "The Kingsmen" are still putting on concerts. I wonder if they ever get burned out from singing "Louie Louie".
Good to hear you got some of that dopamine starting to flow in your system. Have you told her that you are a Husky fan yet?
I wanted to go to that show, but I decided I didn't want to drive up there tomorrow, and pay for tickets for me and my younger two....
I hope you have fun! I've seen Styx a couple times in the past few years, they sound good. Also saw REO last time they were in Tucson, Kevin was sick, and barely had any voice at all, so they were not at the top of their game. Saw .38 Special open for REO in about 1981......
(green with envy)