Before he left I told him that I had gone to talk to the pastor. I hadn't told him that part yet...so I told him that we talked for almost 2 hours, that I had wanted a Biblical perspective on our situation from someone whose opinions I trusted.
[For the record Dan thinks he is a great pastor, straight-shooter, calls-it-like-he-sees-it. So he puts stock in this guy's opinions.}
Dan asked what he had to say. I mentioned nothing about him saying Dan was lost and had a porn problem and all of that. I have learned--he gets defensive when I tell him what the kids say and I figured if I told him what the pastor said he would think that was just my opinions coming out...
So I told him that the pastor said: *Biblically, I had reason to file and that if I chose to, I was not doing anything wrong.
*He also said he would pray for our M to be restored, b/c it is God's will that all marriages be restored if they can be.
*Pastor said he would love to talk to Dan individually and to both of us together to help us sort things out if we were interested
*Pastor suggested I tell Dan ahead of time that I am going to file so he has one last chance to tell me if he wants to work on our marriage, then I may as well go ahead and file.
Dan looked a little surprised, then he said, "Then I will go talk to Perry (pastor) myself."
one question..if Dan thinks the pastor is so great...then why does it take you telling Dan about what you did for DAn to seek the pastor out???
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I am not going to ask him about it, he will go if he wants to go and I will not involve myself.
