" I don't need to and I don't care to know", and then walk away.
They won't quit giving you details until YOU show them that you truly do not want to listen to it.
If you stay in one place while they're telling you this dribble, you will continue to be treated like a person that wants/likes to be updated on her xhs and gf life. Is that what you want? If not, THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Quit listening, and start standing up for yourself!
These people know exactly what they are doing. Some people like to see other people bleed. It makes them feel more secure in their own little life to know that someone else is going through problems worse than their own.
And if that guy is afraid of your xh, than lets face it...he's probably a fair-weather friend at most, and wouldn't be someone that you could trust to be their for you. And as another poster stated, you're really not acting like you're ready for dating anyway. Besides, if you're standing for your marriage like you said, dating is not standing. So you'll have to decide which path you're going to take...can't do both .
The more you try to analyze, the more you stay in one place. We've all done it....that's why we ended up here...but we also learn that trying to understand gets us know where. Once we accept that it was WAS that failed the marriage, and not us...that's when we start to move forward. We made mistakes too, but we did not give up on our vows and commitments.
Have you called Resources for Living yet? If not, why not?
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
