Newcomer, want to keep my hope alive!

[iwantittowork]

Heartbroken20, thanks for your kind words, I hope you find the help you need as well, this site has been eye opening for me to say the least.

I bookmarked one of RobX posts, as his insights are really good, and help to focus on what your trying to accomplish.

Today, I am of the L, but this is just consultation for me and me alone, the Mediator meeting is next week, but I wanted some insights first before I go to it.

I had thought I was not doing well at the DB'ing, but my coach had a different outlook, and maybe worth while mentioning. I spent a day with my W and D a week or so ago, and just focused on having fun by myself, and with my D, and was smiling and laughing and playing with a couple kids, and I noticed my W looking at me odly the whole day. I let that slide and just focused on having fun. We stopped for dinner on the way home, and got home late, and my W immediately went to the computer while I put my D to bed. The next morning I realized that she had been looking up and forwarding me the Mediator info, then setting up and appt that day with him. I thought that was odd given that we had a not so bad day, but took it as a negative.

My coach had a different outlook, saying he has seen this many times with clients, where the W suddenly may be mixed emotions and seeing you as not the bad guy she has in mind, but then later suddenly says 'whoa, that can't be, I must be right, and just need to get this over with ASAP before I start having change of heart'

That may or may not be, but just this morning because I am leaving for work late, I spend the AM getting my D ready for school, and smiling and having fun, and she would barely even talk to me, and seemed really annoyed.

Let it all slide when that happens, and I wished them both a great day as she stormed out of the house after snapping at both her sons..

Maybe little cracks in the attitude, and may not stop what's in progress, but it's still better for me to think and act like this over this period.

Good luck to you Heartbroken20, your in my thoughts as well!