Ok - I'm going to bring it up at our counseling session tonight. But here's the question - when I see her this weekend do I say this:
Wuld it be alright to say something like. I know this has been a very difficult time for you and I know it's been helpful for you to talk to (my H) about things. We both certainly want to be supportive of you. I have noticed that the two of you have been spending a great deal of time together on the phone. As you know, we're struggling with our marriage as well. My concern is that sometimes when people rely on each other for long periods of time emotional attachments happen. I'm really trying to make my marriage work and I have to be honest with you I'm uncomfortable with the amount of time you and (my H) are spending on the phone together.
Do I go further and let her know that on Wednesday I know they had a long phone conversation and that evening it really impacted my H? (although I guess it's an assumption on my part) Also, I thought about saying - think of it this way. What if our roles were reversed. What if your H was spending a lot of time on the phone with me - wouldn't that make you uncomfortable?
