Its great to hear you are doing so well, you really are a pillar of strength and a great source of inspiration.
On reading your last few posts clearly there is progress there. I was interested to read your comments on dating which is a very difficult subject and very emotive. I remember my wife in the early days after the bomb saying it was alright to date which really hurt, and I thought at the time is this because you are??
As you know I am looking at trying to up the ante in regard to my R with my wife and dropping the rope. It is only 5 weeks granted, but there is no wavering at all in regard to her emotions. She is very matter of fact, we are civil but we are like business colleagues discussing a deal, no R talk just stuff pertaining to the children.
The reason I mention this is gucciloafer extols the virtues of playing the jealousy card. I am going to implement this but not until I get back into the house in June when my W moves out. This gives me more time doing what I am doing now and also calm the waters more.
Is this something you would consider? I would do it without dating as I do not want to lead another woman on just to use her as a tool to get to my W? Gucci has seen alot of success with this but I guess it depends on whether you are all done or not.
This is something I have not mentioned befor in any posts to date, but just to say I was married before in 1988. It only lasted for a year in which time my W had an affair with a policeman where she worked. She divorced me and married the policeman and they now have a 12 year old daughter.
She left me for the same reasons my W left me this time. I am so mad at myself for allowing history to repeat itself. It was 20 years ago but I must have shown the same personality traits I had before my present changes. I wish this site had been around then as I would not be here now.
PM, my point being here is that my first wife clearly had decided she wanted out, no counselling, no wavering, nothing. Unfortunately, no different to my present situation which is now frightening me to death because of what happened before. All I am saying is, my first wife never regretted what she did and if she was in a fog it must have cleared pretty quickly for her to have moved on as fast as she did then. I hope for my sake this does not turn out like last time, but I think we have to be prepared that our WAS's have already forged a future without us.
No luck on the part time work yet, but I am still trying.
Mark x
Last edited by markhaving probs; 05/15/0910:03 AM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
