It's uncanny as to how alot of our situations are so similar. In all the time since December '08 when this all happened my parents-in-law or brother-in-law have not at any stage offered their support or comiserations to me. In fact, I have not had any contact with them at all, as though it was ALL my fault. I would love to know why this is so, though I must admit I did not really see eye-to-eye with my mother-in-law, but I was close to my father-in-law which seems so strange to me.
My wife is focused and unwavering because she is set on a new life. I still want to reconcile which makes it more difficult for me to completely focus on my future and that of my children's.
From what I read you have made a definitive statement on your future, that is a good thing as you can start to plan for you and your daughter. People will tell you like me that there is somebody out there who will love us for what we are. I cannot even think about any of that at the moment but there is a future and we can be happy.
I have learnt so much from reading and studying this site to the enth degree. I have learnt about myself, relationships, do's and dont's and I honestly believe I am becoming a better person for it. My children are so important to me now when ashamedley I neglected their needs as well as my wife's in the past, I just wish I could have put my changes into practice within the family unit. The support and advice here has been incredible and a life-saver for me.
Take heart i and try to take it one day at a time and try to improve yourself. It really is the only way.
Mark x
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
