Changing things round has worked very well for me so far. Yeah, early days I know but its perking me up and getting me back on track to personal happiness.
Bought new sheet music for myself yesterday. I love to escape from it all by playing piano and it was time for the household to hear something different.
Went to a cafe with the kids.
Was in good form by the time I got home though H was sullen. He did nothing around the house. Ate the dinner me-without thanks and dumped his plate in the sink, then fell asleep in front of the TV.
At least, I thought he was asleep. I was getting texts during this time a couple of friends, my sister, small talk. This happened maybe three times, then suddenly he `woke` up grabbed my phone and started to look at the texts. I told him it wasn`t his phone(he`s bought the exact same one as me recently)but he still continued look at them. My son(yes, two kids in the room...) looked at the phone too and said Dad its definitely Mum`s phone.
Didn`t bother me if he reaad the texts. Im not having an affair or sending sex texts to someone like he did to his colleague.
But I bit my tongue and smiled and said "I promise you it is my phone" which he knew anyway as my sisters name popped up on the last text.
WTF is all that about? I`m convinced he`s getting nuttier.
Of course he didn`t apologize. Just said nothing. I smiled and sang on, and went off about my business cos I don`t think confrontation is going to help anything. And how can I set boundaries for that kind of behaviour if he`s just plain crazy?
Did all the things I promised myself this morning to make this a new, different day. Said `Good Morning' to him in the cheeriest tone I could muster.He asked if he could take the kids to school(I always do) I asked could he take them home from school too.(Of course not-even though he has the day off;other plans)
Anyway, smile on. I putting my heart into other places and taking it back from him.Don`t suppose that`s what divorcebusting is all about but its where I am right now!
