Is my sitch WAS or MLC?

[LolaL]

Hi...was reading a little of your thread. I am sorry you are in so much pain.

I know how you are feeling. It is intense and painful. But try to keep yourself grounded, even physically. I find when I get to times like this, I literally put both my feet on the ground, and breath deeply. It doesn't necessarily ease the pain, but it does help me to get hold of it. If you let it get hold of you, it hurts worse.

Remember, your H is not the man you married right now. He is lost, and sick, and I don't think he hates you, but hates himself and is projecting it onto you.

I wish I could give you more, but these people are so hurt and in so much pain that they will look for a fix anywhere. It's like detoxing from drugs, they will try to do whatever it is they can so that they can feel better. They are selfish and self centered, and don't care who they hurt.

But one day that will change. They will look back with shame. It does not mean they come back, necessarily. But they will regret the pain they caused others.

And when that day comes, you will be stronger, wiser, and in a better place. I know it doesn't feel like it right now. But that which doesn't kill us, only makes us stronger.

(((Hugs...))) Lola