I am rather new to this myself... My sitch is different, even though my W is a WAS.
I feel your pain - please hang in there - it won't always be this way, it only feels like it right now. My sitch started out rather dirty, with a nasty L and false accusations. Cost me a lot of money, and a lot of emotional stuff too...
It won't always be this way, and I bet better days are ahead of you. Get through today!
Take care, ok? It is extremely tough, but do hang in there!!!
Me: 46 W: 46 M: 9.5 yrs D4, D9 D filed by her 11/3/08 Agrees to try rec at mediation 1/28/09 Says she still wants D in counseling 3/25/09 W and I back in DB counseling (!) 8/20/09 3rd Bomb 9/2/09