* Set goals. Remember to keep them small and achievable. Pick things that you can do on your own, nothing that involves H's actions or reactions.
* GAL activities. You never shared your list, did you make one? Book club is a good idea. You're having trouble focusing on your current novel. Try reading a completely different genre. I get caught up in mysteries and action thrillers. No romance novels. Have you found a book club? Check at the library and the local book stores. That gives you a book, a deadline, the opportunity to meet new people and a future activity to put on the calendar.
What else? Are you doing any type of physical activity? I hate it when people use working out as a GAL activity since most people here have significant weight loss and I think it's something you should be doing anyway for your own health. But if you're not doing anything active (I wasn't before the bomb) start doing it. I walk an hour a day. It gave me time to work off my anger/sadness/anxiety. Now it's part of my daily routine and I only miss it when absolutely necessary. I also started taking dance classes. It's something I've always wanted to do and completely different from my usual sedentary activities. I also tried yoga and teaching myself to play the piano. I have been bad about both lately but will make more of an effort to put them back in my schedule.
What is something that is totally outside your comfort zone? Singing karaoke? Learning a new language? Playing tennis? Making pizza? You don't have to love everything, just try it. It will expand your horizons and build your self confidence.
* Self-help books. Did you pick any up at B&N today? Get one and start reading. Knowledge is power.
* Spend time with friends/family. If you need to talk about your sitch, go for it. But if it's getting you down then just get together for fun things. I made a personal policy to accept every invitation, no matter what it was. I've spent time shopping, watching movies, going out to eat, to a theme costume party, to comedy clubs...you get the idea.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
