Dianes Roller Coaster Ride continued... lol

[Jayce]

Hey, Diane. I'm guessing your week together is over? If not, print out the emails & the letter. Stick them in front of his staring eyes. Point out each sentence. Get loud if you have to . Scream, cry. INSIST he talk. If he says he 'doesn't know how to start it anymore' MAKE him explain.

One thing that worked on my H (which has a little different meaning cuz he's older)was to tell/remind him about 'use it or lose it'. Six weeks of not using any physical body parts results in deterioration: Muscles, nerve connections. You can't do that indefinitely without impaired function. Anybody remember what your arm felt like when they took the cast off?

He hasn't used his libido, ability to have an erection, mental connections or tactile sensation for ages. The mental part is probably hardest to recover, especially if it was shaky to begin with. Possibly that was his way of saying he's lost all confidence. High anxiety is a killer.

Anyway, wave the paper copies in his face. MAKE him remember. and since he can't remember how to 'start it' YOU DO IT. Go after him. JUMP ON HIS BONES! Jump start his feelings. Make him believe YOU REALLY WANT A SEX LIFE! You stop every time he won't talk. No wonder he does that. It works. You let him duck it. Cut it out. Cowgirl up! If he doesn't have the cojones, you have to. The shock will get things moving.

Just do it. Break out of your stalled circle. What's the worst that can happen? What's the best? Just do it.

I'll be back in a week,
Jayce