Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

Good day professionally (yea). Weird day personally. These MLCers really keep you yo yo'ing. Or I guess that would be, they do as long as we let them. I'm certainly doing that. Gotta detach, gotta detach, gotta detach.

H got fitted for a tux today to wear to another dance party I'm not invited to on Saturday night. Hit me hard as the only other times he's worn a tux (other than being a groomsman) were when he was going to a special event with me (prom, wedding, etc.). I just don't see how going to a formal event without your wife and not allowing her to come can be anything "innocent." Who goes solo to something like that without some sort of agenda? He knows I don't want him to go and we discussed why. H called me this morning and said he wanted to try to put my mind at ease and that it wasn't the type of environment that I seem to think it is, he doesn't take anyone, doesn't meet anyone, etc. I just said "ok" and moved on to other stuff. I'd rather have no explanation than more lies.

Suddenly H had to work late tonight and it was up to me to find a solution for childcare even though I'm out of town. Of course I did it. Is that just enabling his irresponsibility or is it the best thing to do since it involves the kids? How do I push back on this type of dumping responsibility on me or should I not?

My head hurts. I thought I'd have figured out what I want by tonight, but no luck. At this very moment I'm in a ticked off, pissy mood and am standing more from stubbornness than anything else. I'll be darned if I'll make it so he can say "she kicked me out." Wrong motivations, I know. I'll work on it.

Will write more later. Hope you guys are doing ok.