Separated & OW coming into picture

[pearlharbr]

Totally script. My xBF said the same things: not happy, need to be alone to figure things out, OW (who I suspected months earlier) was "just a friend," then nothing was going on before we were separated, then it's not an affair because nothing physical has happened yet, blah blah blah.

It was all crap. And he readily admits that now. At the time however, he was constantly and unashamedly lying his ass off even when confronted with proof to the contrary.

IMHO, the sooner you decide which route to take (allow him to cake eat or not) the better off you will be emotionally. I tried to be the better person and wait it out at first and it completely demoralized me. It's not who I am and ultimately I had to be true to myself. The waffling up until I made a final decision was torture. When I resolved myself to one decision and plan of action I felt much better.