Stress, WAW and life in general III

[Sam1007]

alive,

I think AJ left the note at the house for her to see this afternoon and she emailed him this morning, so she will see the note after she's already emailed him those thoughts. But I think she will realize that he left it this morning when he left for work, so I think he still has some wind in the sails!

I do not like that I am not, and have not been a priority in her life for quite some time.

You feel that you haven't been a priority, I feel the same way and somehow even though my life has been revolving around H's needs, career etc. somehow he feels that way too. Maybe my resentment permeated our interactions so much that he couldn't experience the loving and supportive me that was there so much of the time. Not sure about your sitch but it seems that it is a cycle, you've resented being second fiddle for so long and she experienced that as rejection...not sure, just speculating.

I think you guys may be on to something. Maybe that's what's happened in my sitch also. After my W opened her shop, I felt at the bottom of her priority list. No more time to do anything with me, and to some extent, the kids. It's getting a little better and she does spend some time with the kids, and also with me now.

And, like AJ, I do love my W very much. And having young kids really makes things difficult in this sitch.