Thank you for going so far back to find my thread. My W's actions show me that she wants to move forward with the legal separation. Deep down I don't think she really knows whether or not she wants a D, but she knows she wants to be separated right now, and if that's the case, then she wants to get an agreement in place, and I agree. We can't go on like we are. It prevents us from moving forward with our life. Getting that agreement won't preclude us from working on our R, it might even help, as we won't have to discuss finances anymore.
stillloveshim-
Awesome advice. You can probably tell from my posts that I'm very conflicted about my situation. I think in the back of my head I know I should do exactly what you recommend. I was doing just that back when my W's A was going strong, but when it ended, I allowed myself to get sucked back in. She's lonely now, and I'm showing her I'm still there for her, when I shouldn't be. Our kids are so happy when we're all together, and they've been through such a hard time, it's going to be tough to deny them that. If I consider it my attempt to bring our family back together, then that'll give me strength. You describing how I would act if I started seeing someone I cared about is exactly how I should look at things and try to model my behavior after that. Thanks again.
