John, Can you, if you don't mind, please explain what she feels you have done in the past that prevents her from commiting to the marriage?
Do not for one second think that the "sign" comment from her has one speck of truth...think about this. She is thinking the "sign" was a message for her not to return to her daughter? And you...regardless of what she tells you she has moments that she misses you and will wonder forever if she has made the biggest mistake of her life.
Was she married before? I ask because of the SS? What is he doing? What happened to that marriage? I ask to see if this is a pattern for her...
"Blue to Green" that is funny...also another indicator that she is not thinking properly...and not handling her stress
Do not let this change a thing in your plan. Can you improve? Absolutely, we all can...are you as bad as she is saying. No, many people compare real life to tv...life is hard.
Stick to your plan, tell her that is all you can do, you love her and your daughter, and want to play with your grandkids with her...do not go wussy right now. If you compromise on this you will never be able to have mutual respect in this relationship. And you will lose your own self respect...
Again, do not beleive anything she told you at lunch...the same old same old stuff...nothing has changed...she is just trying to cover her self. Her parents may have worried her and her mother is correct...she left a 13 yr old girl for OM.
