He has not said a thing to me about any of the changes. Can't get intel from his friends, as he has alienated all the ones that I know. He literally leaves here at night, goes straight back to BIL and SIL's house, talks to them for a minute or two and goes to his room.
Everyone's reaction has been to tell him to go home an fix things. Of course, that is the last thing he wants to hear right now. I am sure the OW is feeding into his created sense of isolation.
I am being me. He has not seen me as anything other than the new me.
As a matter of fact, I went shopping with SIL the other day at like 10am. She asked me if I looked like this all the time. i said like what? She said hair and make-up done, contacts in, dressed nicely. I said yeah, why? She said so DH sees you like this all the time? Me:Yep Her: and he eats your cooking every night, too? Me: Yep (I am well-known in our family for my cooking--everyone likes to eat at my house and BIL wants me to teach SIL how to cook). Her: Well, heck, you had the OW beat before all this tarted! That woman does not stand a chance! Me:(being me) Yeah, now if I could get him in bed, I would have him home in no time!
So, him trying to rationalize his decision against the reality of home--is that creating the cognitive dissonance that Ali was talking about?
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
