Just wanted to say hey and you and your fam are in my prayers! Thanks for sharing Mark 4 - I will remember it when I feel scared or uncertain. There are many passages in Ezekiel that are speaking to me loudly right now. It's so interesting what passages stand out to you at certain times. I also happened to turn to Malachi 2 tonight.....
Hope you have a great day tomorrow.
Thank you for the continued prayers, FC. Malachi 2:16 and Malachi 4:6 are on my heart constantly. I am doing a study of Psalms and Proverbs right now, as well as a 30 day husband encouragement Challenge. That is hard, as some of the things in it are impossible under the circumstances. But, it also has 30 day guidelines for specific prayer points and I am going to journal and see how things are afterward. God is faithful and I trust in Him to take me through this to whatever is in store on the other side.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Well, interestingly enough, that i did not put in last night's post. My FIL has apparently finally said something to DH about the consequences of his choices. SIL told me about it on Monday, FIL told her after DH left his parents' house Saturday night.
FIL told him that he has no business over here all the time. He made a choice and he needs to live with the consequences. I am guessing that went in one ear ad out the other. DH has made no move to take more of his stuff out of the house and according to SIL he has not brought anything really off the ship, either. She said he keeps his stuff put up out of the bathroom--like he is visiting, not living there. So weird!
I said to SIL that I hope MIL and FIL understand that if DH persists, things are going to change. She asked me why? I told her because I will not be part of the family anymore. SHE said yes I would, I always would and that the OW would NEVER be part of the family--they would never accept her. Then SIl started laughing. I asked her what was so funny she said can you imagine Mom (MIL) if she ever met her? MY MIL has no filter--she says whatever comes to mind. The OW is only 7 years younger than MIL. I can only begin to imagine what MIL would say, but we did havea good laugh over it.
Need to go do some laundry and make a floral arrangement for the front door. I will check in later.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Just saw that DH has listed our 4-wheeler on craigslist. I knew he was thinking about it, but I did not know he had definitely listed it. I know it is ours, as the house is clearly in the picture.
Should I throw a flag on this and remind him that since it is marital property, the proceeds from any sale are half mine?
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Should I throw a flag on this and remind him that since it is marital property, the proceeds from any sale are half mine?
Yes. It's a necessary boundary and healthy for you to do. It is half yours. Is your name on the title?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
No, my name is not on the title. He went in and made plans to buy it before telling me about it. It was just paid off in February. He is selling it for almost a grand below the bluebook on it. I know he will probably put it toward the credit card debts--or at least that is what he said his plans were the last time he mentioned selling it. If he is going to do that, I could insist it go on the only joint account we have, but then he needs to stop using the joint card. Of course, he says he cannot file because he wants to pay off the debt before then.
I am kind of bummed about him selling it, as I just found someplace we could ride it while he was on deployment.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Should I throw a flag on this and remind him that since it is marital property, the proceeds from any sale are half mine?
In a word.......YES! Of course, I think VA law is "equitable distribution of assets", not equal. I know you aren't looking at D as an option, but this is marital property and if he has an ounce of honesty in him, he wouldn't withold proceeds from the sale of a major item from the family.
Not sure how you bring this up to him though.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Should I throw a flag on this and remind him that since it is marital property, the proceeds from any sale are half mine?
In a word.......YES! Of course, I think VA law is "equitable distribution of assets", not equal. I know you aren't looking at D as an option, but this is marital property and if he has an ounce of honesty in him, he wouldn't withold proceeds from the sale of a major item from the family.
Not sure how you bring this up to him though.
And that's the rub. He did not talk to me before listing it this time, he just went ahead and did it. Virginia is equitable distribution. I can see his head spinning already at having to give me half of whatever he sells it for. Oh, and I have physical possession the title, not him. It came in the mail while he was gone.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
