Wow, I do think that every word of advice has its completely contradictory counterpart. For example, in this one thread the concept of putting thought before emotion and action is recommended and just a few posts away, that very concept is regarded as the impasse to real intimacy and communication.
That is what is confounding me as a fellow "thinker," how do you do both? How do you know when to be measured, thoughtful and controlled in speech and action? Versus when to be open, vulnerable and unselfconscious?
