For so long I have carefully thought and analyzed before ever asking, saying or doing; fearing, predicting and controlling the response from those around me. It has kept me from really connecting.
Using my Dr Phil voice, "So how's that been working for you?"
Answer: Cr*ppy! It's kept me from really enjoying a lot of things in life.
Control really is overrated, but so easy to fall into as an inherent defense mechanism.
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I don't know what would happen if I really started to honestly open up right now with my W
You would create a emotional connection that would be more "real" than anything in your M until this point. Love yourself in spite of your faults. Be the best Thinker you can. You can handle it. Cheers
Part of what is tying me up is the dichotomy between this and much of DB: PMA, be strong, "Manly Assurance (TM)" ( to SP), be patient, space and time. That does not reconcile with what would likely come out if I really open up right now: Anger, sorrow, fear, pain, desire.
I have found ways to open up to my C and (to a lesser extent) to a few of my male friends, but how do I open up to my W without overwhelming her, scaring her, or otherwise pushing her right out the door.
What if she is not ready?
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Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
to SP), be patient, space and time. That does not reconcile with what would likely come out if I really open up right now: Anger, sorrow, fear, pain, desire.
