Don't get me wrong I am very happy that a marriage has the potential of being saved. Obviously that is why we all post on this board.
I don't think this is meant to be a personal attack, but just to be careful. There is also a suck thing as being realistic. It is wonderful that your (MWG) husband is home. Just proceed with caution...I think that is all I am trying to say. I wish you the best, and pray that this works. Just go into it with caution.
(((Hugs!!!)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Point out for the masses where I bash BH for his opionion of the situation, just the disregard of honoring a thread starter's wishes on posting? Cause maybe I'm not reading the same thread you are.
BH and I both acknowledge we don't see eye to eye. I'm Pollyanna Blowing Sunshine and he is Negative Numbers Nancy. (I figure I can say that since I am making fun of myself as well)
dncrm, oh yes. I was bashing dncrm.
If well wishes are an afterthought? Maybe you're in the wrong place. If your not posting soley for the benefit of the person you are posting to too? Again maybe you're in the wrong place.
Caution in all things here. I'd say respect but...phppt that ain't true.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I'm sorry but you can't be positive all the time. Sometimes we need the negativity and the pity parties to let go of some emotions. Keeping things bottled up and trying to "act" like you are in a positive mood all the time doesn't work. People who agree all the time are not helping out either. Trapt, what is the "meaning"? Explain that to me please.
I totally agree with you Trapt.
It is hard not to be "real" and even harder to put on a happy face all of the time.
MLC sucks big time, it turns our world upside down, and affects so many people in our lives.
It rips families apart, affects our jobs and friendships, etc.
It is so easy to get sucked in to the MLC'ers drama and BS.
And after a while, it is better for us to be honest with one another and to keep it real, then to sugar coat everything and give someone false hope and encouragement when the writing is on the wall so to speak.
As for MWG, it is not for us to say whether or not he is home to stay and make things work with his family.
It is not for us to pick things apart.
She has been here for a long time, and piecing is the hardest part, and I think she is ready for the challenge.
It is what it is....
We can only hope that this time it is for real, and that he just hasn't run home to seek a temporary refuge from the OW.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Jack, I really wasn't accusing you and Trapt for the bashing, the bashing comment was just in general. What I was saying to you 2 was:
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Jack and Trapt, no matter how wonderful it is that the man came home, caution is warrented. His actions are from a man who was kicked out by the OW. Where else was he to go at 3am?
So you see, I was not fussing at you 2 for that. I was just stating my opinion that caution needed to be in effect.
You know I treasure any advice you give Jack. I may not always agree with you but you are one of the few I think long and hard about what you say. Sometimes it sinks in and sometimes it doesn't.
What I wrote came from personal experience. People have to earn our trust and basically that was really all that I was saying. I would be leary of someone who came home because they had nowhere else to go and at some point we have to accept that maybe God is asking us to trust that maybe he has some other plan for us.
Oh and J3B I find it somewhat humorous that you of all people would lecture on the side of standing. We are all here because we wanted nothing more than to save of marriage but for most of us the end of the story is that we saved ourselves. I would call that a success!
We are all here because we wanted nothing more than to save of marriage but for most of us the end of the story is that we saved ourselves. I would call that a success!
Perhaps Gods way was to send MWGs H home this way. Who are we to second-guess.
But as a mere mortal, wouldn't most of us preferred that our wayward spouse would have come home on his/her own accord? Be honest with yourselves.
If you have faith in God, you will believe that what is, is..and that He has a reason for it unfolding the way it has.
BUT that doesn't mean it looks like the ideal way to many here and elsewhere.
What we as posters write should not have any effect on what MWG feels and believes. She is strong in her beliefs and faith.
I don't believe Braveheart wrote anything mean or condescending. Only his own opinion based on his own experiences and the experiences of many others.
All of us...and I mean ALL of us pray this is the end of the rollercoaster ride for MWG and her family, although piecing, from what I've read, is another journey all on it's own.
Our success is in surviving whatever path God takes us on, and accepting what His will is, not our own. And learning to grow and learn along the way. That may be the reason that we're all here to begin with.
Best wishes MWG.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
Feigned innocence? Hardly. It's a question that all of us who put so much faith in God's will all have to ask ourselves eventually. What happens when things don't go as we originally had hoped? Do we question God, or accept his will, or just hold out for what we want it to go? I don't know about you, but for me, earning trust and having faith are 2 very different struggles.
So J3B let me ask you, why do you spend so much time here? Is your relationship going so well that it takes so little effort? If so then you must be the exception to the rule.
