Originally Posted By: LuckyGirl
Oh, and to clarify my comment about "internally rejecting you as her man." I don't think that this is in her conscious. I think it is in her subconscious because of the fog and false "love" that she had with OM. Because she is focused on him somewhere deeply internal, you are the afterthought in that same place within her. Even though she consciously knows that you ARE her man and her H, there is something in her that's in reserve...

My basic point is that she doesn't mean the harm that she is causing you. I'm sure she's said that, and I think she means it.

My guess. Though, I'm always willing to be wrong.

Lucky


I think you are right here. I agree.

I also think it has to do with her equating me with her own long-suppressed anger and dissatisfaction with her own life.

But still, it shows me that this intimacy is the barrier I have to overcome.

Now just "How?"

That's where I am thinking. What do I need to change about myself in order to allow the wall to fall?

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