Hello All! I am still here! I am ok. It's still the roller coaster ride. But I guess the most important thing to note as of late the OW did distance herself from my H. She even contacted me to let me know as much, including sending me some emails trying to blow him off. He and I have talked about it and he says that is done they really are just friends. At this point in time, I say, Whatever. I'm going on vacation with my little guy today. I can't wait. I'm going to take the week for me and no one else, grandmommy and granddaddy are going to focus on my little guy for me and I'm just going to not think and hopefully become a little bit stupid, and relaxed! Love you all for checking on me. I'll be in touch, you all stay strong!
Hi Blue I'm actually doing the Mort program right now. So far, so good. I am torn between some of his idea's and DB ideas. But both have been the crutch I've needed to help get me through this, plus all of you!
I started with Morts ideas when I was first working on the M. It was a disaster! I think they are great for 2 people who are committed to the R and are openly trying to work on it, but they are inapplicable when only one person is fully committed.
Good luck and glad to hear all is well!
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
Really? I've had a pretty good amount of good progress. HOWEVER I will say, this week, while I'm on vacation, I'm going pretty dark. I want him to see what life is really going to be like without me. And he may like it, and I'm ready for that. I hope he hates it, but I'm ready for every possible outcome. I moved back into our place on Tuesday. I don't know what he's going to do when I get back. I hope he stays, but not sure he will. Actually, pretty sure he won't. But I made it clear he can't move back to the guy he was living with because that guy had a large dog that does not like our 3 year old. So he needs to move somewhere where he can take our son. I need some alone time
I would love for him to stay. But he's not going to do that. I think he's going to try to move back in with the same friend. Then we are going to have problems because I really want him to go somewhere where he can take our S with him on his weekends so I can have some alone time. If he has to go, then I want some time for me to be a complete jerk and alone with no one to bother me or to do what I want, no interuptions. But still, I'd rather he stay. Honestly. I think we could really improve things if he did.
Hi Everyone! I've been MIA GALing...went on vacation with S to see my family and friends back home. Moved my things back to our place a couple of nights before we left. H stayed. Got back last Thursday and H is still there. Sounds like good news, right? Well, sort of.... Last night, we were going over some bills and such and he basically tells me that I'm ignoring the 300pound gorilla in the room....I'm in a fantasy land....(and here's my favorite)...we're just playing house.... I left our play house and drove for a bit to cool off. He emails me while I'm gone and basically explains there is no one else, we're just where we are because of us..blah blah blah...he's going to be a "gypsy" when he doesn't have S and just live here and there. I got into bed and was playful with him. He seemed confused but played back a little bit--because he knew I was on the computer, surely she saw the email? Today I called to chit chat with him and he said something about the email last night and that he was surprised I was talking to him. I said "What email?" He said, oh it must be out in cyber space. I asked what it said and he said, you know what, let's just forget it, ok? I said "I'll take it as a sign from the cosmos then.....let's forget it." And we proceeded to have a nice conversation. My reason for denying I got it......I don't want him to feel like "Oh I said it, now I have to move out...." I would rather us both be there...if he's in the same house for me, I can really do some damage to his thoughts of divorce. All suggestions and advice on how to capitalize on this is more than welcome! Missed you all!
