So I still need that rock. There are three people that I want to use it on. My stbx, the jacka$$ she is seeing and myself. What a mess!
It's such a curiosity to me how the spouse can lie about it while so involved with another person.
A therapist said that it is because they still want you to approve of them. Some basic need.... Whatever???? Apporove of them???? I have an easier time aproving of Attila the Hun.
Yep... as you can tell I have once again screwed up and seen something I shouldn't have. We are getting the house on the market so I have been sitting here with the building inspector. I went out of my way to tell her to pick up the house. She insinuated that she keeps it clean and I told her that's not what I am talking about. I don't want to see any of your private things (refering to the last snooping argument).
So I go to the computer to get the wep key off the modem so I can use my laptop and see an email exchange between them. Her email was suppose to be down (something I did not offer to fix) And yes that required a little curiosity when I saw it. I could have said no, I am not going to read that. But this is the person who has told me this guys is nothing but a very close friend and I am taking it way out of context.
He is such a nice guy, "good that you want to look fo apartments there because you will be close to me and (daughter) will be close to her dad, miss you!"
there was a comment exchanged between them about me but I won't share that becasue I didn't quite get the meaning of it.
ARGH!!!
What happened to the normal part of life?
Define normal????? Running around the yard at night in boxers looking for earth worms maybe but being stuck in a never ending divorce is not.
I asked my IC once can you hate someone and love them at the same time? She said that if you didn't care about them, they wouldn't matter enough to hate. I wonder why I am fighting to get to that point - of not caring about this person.
Why hang on to this? Hmmm? That one really bothers me?
