I have some very strong opinions and thoughts here, but I thought I'd ask for yours first. Help, anyone?? I'm willing to do something differently than what I've done in the past (I think I HAVE to, otherwise you've got that "Definition of Stupidity" thing), but is that "something" trying to better understand her feelings and fears, or is it calling her on her bullchit??
Puppy
Well... first and foremost she seems to be recognizing and willing to listen to reason. I would validate her feelings (you don't have to agree, but feelings can't be wrong and she can't be made to feel they are wrong) and work on keeping the communication going.
Something similar with my W, instead of 'it' I referred to it as the "I dunno" because when she would get in her moods and I tried to communicate it was "I dunno" to everything I asked.
Still is. Not sure how to break through her barrier because it is like reasoning with a three-year old.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
