Thank you very much for the reply. I hear you on the do what I say I'm going to do, she hasn't said it for a while but I used to get a lot of I can't trust you're going to do what you say...If I tell her I'll get the kids because she has to work late she'll still call me at 5pm to make sure I'm still going to get them.
I really do think a big part of why she hasn't filed is she's afraid of both getting back together and getting a D. I'm afraid a little also, almost more of working things out than the D, I've accepted that a D is more likely at this point.
I know she wants me to be more decisive and have "plans". One of her "favorite" things to ask is what's your plan, she says this for almost everything. Last night for example, our D has T-ball on Saturday and it's our turn to work the concession stand, problem is the game is from 10:00-11:00am and our shift is 12-2pm. Last night she asked what my plan was, I actually had one, I could tell she was a little surprised. Usually I just say I don't know what's yours or I don't care whatever you want to do. My problem is sometimes I really don't care, I'll do whatever is easier for her but I've tried to stop that, and I think I'm doing a good job...
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
