Stepping out and Stepping UP!

[cagzmom]

Thanks T!!

i talked with my mother-in-law (x) very briefly about some things while back...more like 2 divorced women talking..it was refreshing in a sort. It wasn't a male bashing time..but more about her journey.

there was a stint after the affair that my mother-in-law and father-in-law dated... it started a little while after we got married...and lasted for quite some time. She told me that there were these things that he said that got to her. One was that he "couldn't wait for him to iron her shirts again," another was " all I want to do is golf with so in so" and lastly he asked her to move with him... again and he said "i might have this great job..." she said she thought...uh no.. I have a job etc. She said she realized taht (for her) all he wanted was a wife..not a partner. She remarried another man 14 years ago and they have had a partnership the entire time.

We talked about GROWING as a person. My father-in-law even today is still the same as he was when I met him 20 years ago. Still has "big plans," still sad... she grew. Got her masters and GREW...he ddin't..

that is what I see in my x...no growth.
He has gone from running and partying, to the bimbo trying to make an unhealthy relationship work to now he is a player... a little playboy... very strange actually. he even told me last night... he has 4 women on the string right now... good grief!!!

ok enough.