You posted on my thread a while ago. I think we are in reverse situations and have wanted to have some dialogue to see if we can help each other.
From the bit that I read here, if your W is having trust issues - as I am - I will shed some light perhaps. What I am looking for is: be a man of your word - do what you say - do it when you say you will - if asked to stop doing something, then it should stop, if something is planned then show up, don't back out - if you don't like something a simple say so ( without the arguing) should be enough - and remember that sometimes you have to do things you don't like.
My suggestion is to either think through what you know about your W and/or what she has said she wants or needs from you to build trust again.
My H has 100+ days now, struggles with our R and the task of rebuilding. I reach out to you because it sounds like you care about W a lot and I know my H wants to be with me too. I really want/need to work out the trust and friendship part but my H doesn't seem to have a clue. Perhaps it is because its so early yet?
Let me know if I can help or not. I hear you struggling, I hear you care, I hear you want to move forward. I feel the same but I am earlier in the process. You sound like a good man and maybe your W feels the same but is afraid. (hence, not filing the D after all this time)
