A new thread, a new outlook.....

[Can it work]

Thank you for taking the time to post on my thread Tulsa. Even more so since it's your first ever post.

I'm very weary of making it seem as though I'm over pursuing and try to keep myself in check as much as possible. It can be tempting to jump in with both feet when you feel you're getting no feedback from your spouse. Over the months this has been going on I feel as though I'm at a point where I've reached a happy medium.

As for responding to her in a nasty way, that's never been in my nature nor is it likely to be. I fully respect her decision to leave me even though I don't agree with it. It wasn't an easy choice for her to make.

I've been quiet these last few days because my W and Wee Man have been away to visit her brother over the weekend. they only got back yesterday. I went down to bath Wee Man last night because I'd missed him like crazy. At first my W was a bit monosyllabic as per usual but by the time I left we were talking away quite comfortably. At no point would I say she seemed happy though and I never once saw her smile while I was there. I try not to read too much in to these encounters now though.

I've been asking my W recently for the dates of her family's birthdays. They all got me cards and presents for my birthday and I feel I'm still close enough to them to be able to get them something in return. She seems reluctant to give me the dates though and I can't work out why. Is she trying to reduce the contact I have with her family? If she doesn't give me them I'll just go elsewhere to get them. I just didn't see it as such a big issue that she'd want to try and prevent me getting them though. I think I'll make up a list of the people whose birthdays I want the dates for and take it to her when I pick up Wee Man tomorrow night. I'm sure it won't take more than 5 minutes to write them down.

Anyway, I'm quite busy at work now so I'd best get on.

Kev