I looked at your post and read it a few times to take it in. I see that 'dating' is THE most pro-active way to turn things around. I suppose it is a possible win win situation in that you get to date again and the possibility of turning a relationship around. I suppose on the flip side, if my W is involved in an A is heavily into the OP and finds outs, it would be justification and possible closure on our relationship.
I have successfully stopped pursuing and given her all the space she needs. She wants even more space by asking me to have the children more, but I am going to try and set a boundary here as I love my children dearly, but I must set a boundary and not become a babysitter. When I refuse or disagree on when I have the children other than the alloted schedule, she says I do not really care about the children and you have not really changed. I do not know if she means it or she is just trying to be a spoilt brat that does not get their own way.
I like the other areas of improvement also. You're right though my first priority is a job.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
