I am glad that you are feeling your own internal strength has returned. That is the main thing for you.
Regarding the apartment and notice etc. I would agree with you that it is H's problem. However, if there is a possibility that you may reconcile and move back together prior to the annual lease finishing, then why not dicuss this possibility with H. Be honest and tell him that you cannot say for certain when or if, but at some point in the future, you may be in a position together to move in. Tell him that you don't like the pressure, you want to make a decision that you BOTH are happy with. If that means that you may have to sort out the accommodation later in the year, so be it. It's his problem whether he is willing to allow this to happen. He has to be agreeable to your wishes as you need to take his into account (albeit on a lesser basis)
If he is serious about change and is willing to make the effort, then he should also be willing to renew his lease and sort out what to do when the time is right.
It's your call Kass, don't be pressured. Pass that mantle to H!
