Innishannon, Go read my threads if you havent already. I am just now getting my life back. Our h/xh's are acting out in the SAME WAY. My xh lives with his gf, no longer ow, and is planning on marrying her. What Snodderly said is soooo correct. It took me forever to see that. I was/am like you, I didnt understand how my once lovable h could disown me like he does. Since his new gf, he wants ZERO contact with me. Our son is 18 and has is own phone, so they talk almost everyday. My xh doesnt ask about our finances or how I am doing. He doesnt care. Like Snodderly explained....a perfect example is my xh...he has given up fishing, and all the things he loves to please her, to keep her happy. He use to take my calls (I didnt need to be calling, but thats another story), and help out a little until her. He spends every dime he can get on her, even bought her an expensive house dog for mothers day. My xh HATES dogs in the house, would not have one here at home. Innishannon they seem to go crazy for this attention. I havent spoken or tried to contact my xh in any way for almost 2 months now. I even go out of my way to make sure we do not make contact. I want him to totally have me out of his life. His choice so I am making sure his wishes come true, something I should have done months ago, but would NOT LISTEN to ANYBODY! Even after almost two months of no contact, he STILL trys to explain to people why he left me. His only excuse to them is after he left me I wouldnt let him be and showed up at his place when he was trying to date someone else. He basically tells them I am crazy. He cant come up with a reason he left, I guess he doesnt know why and knows everyone would say he is to blame, so he tells them about the aftermath. Instead of letting it go, and not talking about our situation, he is bringing me up to people. You would think that after two months he would just let me be, but no he thinks he has to still explain and tell people how I acted. I assume, as Snodderly says, the ow validates this because she thinks I am crazy too.lol She has called me desperate, which I was, but no longer am, and thinks he NEVER cheated on me, she thinks he left me because he hated me.lol He obviously is still pulling the wool over their eyes. He says he loves her, but when he works out at the gym, he tells the guys there, young ones too, that he has been with many women and when one walks in, he claims he has been there and done her too. He calls this love? Hang in there Innishannon time does heal. I didnt believe it, but it does. I am like you people divorce all the time, but to treat someone like they are trash, especially someone you love, is uncalled for. I can handle the divorce better than this treatment anyday. I will be praying for you.
