Dear Snodderly, Thank you so very, very much for taking the time to write; your insight means a great deal. What you have written speaks with so much truth and at the end of the day truth is really where things begin and end.
I have court in a couple of hours where I meet my H face on in relation to a barring order application. I have never had to do anything like this; but I have to for the sake of myself and my D. I was talking with a friend of mine last night who is a family law solicitor. She has said that she has heard first hand of disgusting things that my H has been saying about me to mutual friends and work colleagues in the arts community where we live; he has been saying that I am sick in the head, that I want it all my way in life or no way at all and that I was simply impossible to deal with. I am so hurt and frightened by this man......I simply do not understand how he is able to be so cruel and heartless about me and to my face. At the end of the day I am the mother of his child and I am still legally his wife. I am foremostly though a human being with feelings. If my H wanted to leave the M to be with OW that is one thing; it is devastating. But to have these slanderous things said about me, things that belittle my suffering and grief which he has caused single handedly, the suffering of my child through this. Well, how does someone do this to another persons life? I have been told that because there has been n physical violence (yet) I am extremely unlikely to get the barring order today if I go through the full court proceedings.My advisors are suggesting I apply for a revoke of the application based on an underwriting by my H to stay away from the family home unless by prior invitation. I want to feel safe in my own home. I want my D to be protected from my H crisis.......I cant explain his behaviour any other way. He is a WAS, and he is annihilating my name and my care by his extreme action. I am grieving for the loss of my marriage and the husband and the men that I knew and loved, who has gone seemingly forever. It seems as if he is possessed by something; he ha sdropped all sense of interest and responsibility. Can men really just jump so coldly from one life to another? Its frightening what they leave behind........
I have to assume that my H is in crisis and you have actively confirmed that. the alternative is unthinkable; that he is coldly and calculatedly destroying our lives. What must he think of himself to do what he is doing and say what he is saying? Surely it is a projection of his own self worth?
I want to thank all of you again, this support that i receive is so important.......it is literally getting me through this torrid time and reminding me that there are good people out there in the world. Thank you so much Top Edit
