Hi jr - my life is crap and I dot think i am so wise, otherwise I would not be in this position.
900 miles diff..... i was thnking of maybe the next time you visit the kids , that you could try to geta few hours alone with her. Maybe you could be creative. How do you think she would feel , or how would you feel if you maybe sent her a gift. Could be something sgnificant to you both or smething humerous or something thoughtful. Nothing big. I know Dbing says not to do things like this but in your situation, how else can you connect.
I did hear a story on this board where a couple only had contact 5 times in 2 years and then reunited. Dont know why o how but maybe the distance and space healed whatever was wrong.
I am glad you have done the classes and I am sure she sees the changes in you. Baby steps.
