Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing 3

[Thinker]

Thanks for your insight earlier Lucky,

After the discussion earlier, I have kept coming back to and thinking about this post, in particular the sentence I bolded.

I also think that she is staying faithful to the OM, even if she isn't involved with him anymore, and that is why she isn't ML with you or why your sexually charged compliments don't feel right. She has internally rejected you as *her* man.

I think that this is completely true.

My W has not completely rejected me:

- She still sees me as a friend. She asks me to do things together with her - dates, movies, TV, etc.
- She still sees me as someone to comfort her. She snuggles, asks for backrubs, etc
- She still sees me as the father for her children. She happily spends time together with me and them, and relies on me to help her with them. We parent well together.
- She still sees me as a partner in her life. She is dependent on my income, concerned about my career, has offered to move to a new place if I need to find a better job, etc.
- She still cares about me, looks after my health, etc.

She has just rejected me as "her man"

She has said this outright on a number of occasions: "I am not attracted to me and have not been for a long time"

I know it is not physical. I am not unattractive and she has confirmed this.

It is emotional. Attraction is completely emotional, and she has locked me out of this part of her emotions.