Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

Yes, I'm one of THOSE people - except when my emotions take over, then logic takes a backseat. I'm also a solver of puzzles, problems. It's one of my greatest strengths and I believe also one of my greatest personal weaknesses right now. Thus, the snooping that's gotten me in trouble so much to date.

After R discussion this morning, I did not initiate contact with H today. He called on his way to work and I did not answer. I'm glad I didn't. He left me a voicemail telling me he was thinking about me and how much he loved me and that he wanted to say that after our R talk, but he didn't want me to think he was just feeling sorry for me. It would have been touching if I didn't feel so manipulated by his MLC self. Do I allow myself to believe it? Do his words really mean anything? He called a couple of other times, but only left one message about kid stuff. I replied by email and the kids called me tonight but I did not talk with H. I'm doing a lot of thinking right now about what I want. Glad to be away from home and able to just be here alone tonight.

One of the weird things about this state of existence is how to handle future plans. We have concert tickets for May 28th. We have a week at Disney reserved in July. I was scheduling our annual beach trip and have paused b/c not sure if that's wise. How do you handle stuff like that? H seems to get agitated discussing any type of plan, even if it's for tomorrow so I've just been not saying anything. Guess just handle it when it arrives. I may just go ahead and plan the beach trip and take the boys myself if we're apart then.