Bomb dropped in Feb still living in same house. 5 kids 4 live at home.M 19 years and still love H dearly.have had problems in past went to therapist 18 years ago for the marriage and life went on seemed to be going ok.then 2 years ago she surprised me for my birthday told we were going away for the weekend and off we went much to my surprise it was a marriage encounter weekend.I was not to thrilled about be lied too but she said if she told me I wouldn't go and I don't think I would have.but I did learn some things and I thought it helped.then a 18 months I was in a severe auto accident and have been out of work due to disc damage in my lower back.I will require surgery and the insurance company has denied the claim so it is in litigation.during this time I had fallen into a deep depression and have been in therapy and have progressed.W says she is tired of trying to save the marriage and I will never change.I've been told I have been an inactive father.and only care about myself.I love my family dearly and just want to be whole again.sorry if I rambled on any advice would be appreciated
H 49 W 42 S 19 S 14 S 12 S 8 D 6 M 19 Bomb dropped 2/09 Separated 5/09 still hopeful, praying
Read the book. Get the book The Five Love Languages and read it. Post often and get ready to do some serious soul searching about your part in the situation. It's going to take a lot of hard work, dedication, and determination on your part. Time to fix the things about you that you know hinder you. You can do it!
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
