Oh, and like someone mentioned before, do not tell her about seeing a lawyer, who your lawyer is, or any details. In fact, your life should be somewhat of a mystery to her. I don't mean in a bad way, but you need to be "busy" (or at least her thinking you are busy). If she asks you questions, change the subject or redirect the topic back to her. Become an amazing listener and smile a lot (even if you feel like screaming at her).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
