SSW struggling with GAL

[bob48]

[quote=DanceQueen]
Now I have to say one more thing, and this may not be a popular opinion...but if he has porn on his computer (or you have caught it in the past) then if I were you, I would simply demand that this stop and I mean NOW. I would also demand transparency on this issue (ie: if he looks at it, he has to admit it to you and show you what he was looking at). I would demand that from him because if he is wasting his sexual energy on masterbation while you are trying to recover an SSM, it will very greatly inhibit his desire to actually have sex. (And I also have the personal opinion that men are lazy lovers when they only masterbate to porn instead of using their minds and imagination...it is very easy to become visually aroused for them...the problem is that then their bodies associate ONLY visual arousal with sexual release...they begin to lose the association of BEING WITH THEIR WOMAN with sexual release...but again, this is not a popular opinion).

I think that if your H enjoys porn, instead of demanding anything and instead of being critical, consider asking him if you can join him. you may discover something about him