Speaking of great job......I FINALLY GOT ONE!!! Well, I had the temp job but he had just basically given me 2 weeks notice so this was great timing. It's the receptionist job at the local community college, from 11-3 Monday through Thursday so I hope to still homeschool the kids as long as I can.
It's funny I didn't know how the interview went, but I was thinking on the last interview I didn't sell myself enough (well the guy did talk for 99% of the interview in my defense), but I really worked hard this last one to sell myself and I thought I overdid it and got a little braggy maybe, but I guess not! So they wanted me to start asap, but are letting me start Thursday b/c of the move. And I want to give 2 weeks notice on my walking job so I was thinking about trying to do that also and basically go full-time the next few weeks, and finish up moving. Maybe too much?
Karen
Attagirl, Karen! Never doubted you for a single moment, and have always felt that the RIGHT job was waiting to come along for you.
I usually counsel people (when their new employer wants them to start work right away) to say something like "Well, to be fair to my current employer, I need to give them the courtesy of two weeks notice, just as I would want to do for you if the situation were reversed. But I'm willing to be flexible and put in some extra hours to get started here right away, too." Usually, they'll just say "nevermind," but you score points, and if they DO take you up on it, you make some double-$$$ for two weeks.
I've always done that too with all my full-time jobs, but I was thinking maybe I can pull off the 2 part-time jobs and just give the kids a 2 week summer break from hsing. We hs year-round so I think it'd be ok. I might have them do some online schooling they can do on the computer while I'm at work and have them do chores. Maybe they can help unpack some of our boxes too!
I think my temp. boss said he usually doesn't do brochuring after May 1st (b/c of his advertising budget) but was maybe helping me out by the extra month so when I tell him I've gotten the job (tomorrow) he maybe will say I don't have to work the next 2 weeks. He had just given me 2 weeks notice so I don't think I even have to give notice, but unless he tells me he doesn't need me I don't want to break my policy of always giving 2 weeks notice (one job I had to give a month).
H just emailed me and asked if the job was temp or permanent? My take is I bet he wants to take this to his L and try to reduce alimony by the $350 or so I'll be taking home each month. Funny thing is I will be short about $350 of rent if I hadn't gotten the job. It's about exactly how much I need to cover the bills of the extra rent. And you know I spend $0 dollars on clothes, entertainment, fast food, etc., vacations, all of which you know he does quite a bit. Grrr. Plus I don't know whether I'm more bothered that H insisted on the evaluator having us meet separately (why the heck is he not wanting to see me it's not like I'm the one that had the affair and was the nasty one) or that it still bothers me that kind of stuff. I just don't get it.
Karen, have you ever checked out FL Virtual School? They're very good . . . so convenient!! We've had some good luck with them. Might be good for, as you say, giving the kids a bit of a break this summer.
Yep. My S15's been attending since middle school and loves it. He can work on his classes while I'm at work, at least some of his assignments. I recommend them to everyone; the teachers are wonderful and they've been great about his slightly slower pace. I guess S15's really already almost a public school student technically. Karen
Right in the middle of the move, H emails me my biweekly car payment is late and they are talking about changing it to monthly. I made my first car payment the same day H gave me child support/alimony and have been paying it every 2 weeks since. They said it was already I guess 2 weeks late according to them when I began taking over the payment. I think he canceled it (they were deducting from his paycheck) the day of the hearing 2 weeks before the order was done and we started child support/alimony. I guess I have to pay the $169 so my credit doesn't go in the toilet, but maybe at mediation, I can ask for reimbursement? Karen
How can they be so non-chalant about it all??? I mean they are willing to lose everything and I mean EVERYTHING for this OP and the A. It makes no sense what so ever. Add it to his bill since he is supposed to be paying it. I can't wait for them to start garnishing his wages for you.
kat
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
So I just got this email from H: He was asking what my plans were for when I was working and I emailed back: same as he and I have been doing while at work, having S15 babysit S9. He emails back: I think this is different. when they are at my place I am only a few minutes away and there are adults nearby. I would have them in school but until that's worked out I cant do that. when they were in the XXXXX house they were close to the police department and other adults. its a bad plan to have them stay alone during school hours way out in a remote location. I hope we can come up with a better plan. So I emailed back (mover is supposed to have been here a few minutes ago):
There are several neighbors on the same street. Our landlord and his wife are retired and home all the time and are 2 doors down. They said the kids could always come over. I met the next door neighbor and he is nice too. We have the cell phone for emergencies as well. I have no choice about working b/c I have to pay bills. Also, if you have them Wed. it will only be 3 days a week for 4 hours so 12 hours a week. If you'd like to pay for a nanny or sitter, I could look into that, but I have no extra money for that. I can continue to look for a mostly weekend job, but have to take something at this point and this is the first permanent job I've been able to get (tough job market). Thanks for your understanding. Please let me know when the mid-December car payment is straightened out. Thanks for that also. We should be moving any second also, so won't have internet until Friday morning. But you can always leave voice mail on the cells.
BTW, how do you think he can stand to live with himself? Is he the biggest jerk or what????
He is such a slimeball, Karen. He's out to screw you over so that he has the least amount of money to spend on you and the kids. He's building up his case: Kids should be in school since you are gone all day, circumstances have changed now which would show the needed school change, get the testing to prove it, etc.....I really don't trust him at all.
Karen