Use the time to figure out if you want to be married I fully agree. While your doing that let me remind you that you're pretty new here so you're going to bounce.
Look, saying I know its MLC but its disrespectful is like saying I know its a dog, but does it have to bark? Sadly, Yeah it does. Wouldn't be much of a life crisis without all the confusion and crap that goes along with it.
The suck part...is you know this crap because you snooped. and now...now you can't saying anything about it (well you can...and guess what? I'll bet you will down the road, that will be a fun day! Wait until you see how upset they get when you tell them you found all their little secrets, its almost funny)...so in a weird way...it's you fault. Ever hear that ignorance is bliss? Well it is. He doesn't know you know, so why would naything change on his part iof he doesn't want to truely rip your heart out?
Look Limbo, this isn't easy. You're going to have to be tougher to make it. And really if you figure out you cannot forgive him, then give up now, if you are going to hold this over his head for the rest of your life then quit out now and find someone else to help you raise your boys.
If marriage was easy, they wouldn't need vows. Better or worse. Yeah he f-ed up and will f up more. I hope you feelthat MLC is a mental breakdown because that certainly helps. "In sickness and in health" Health is easy...better is easy. Life isn't easy. Cowgirl up, show your boys what they want in a wife.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
