Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing 3

[Thinker]

Could be she feels she loses everyone she is close to. Makes sense to close yourself off and be the one to keep the hurt from happening. *shrugs*

It could be. I guess we are all mind-reading.

If I really had to guess and hang my hat on something, I think it is a MLC. My W is a feeler, a dreamer and an idealist. She follows her emotions and hates to analyze anything. I think she is nearing 40, watching her parents pass away, and facing her own mortality. Her mom and 2 sisters have had breast cancer, and my W has tested positive for the "breast cancer gene". This gives her (statistically) a 70% chance of contracting breast cancer as well.

I know she loves her kids, cares for me, and is comfortable in her life here and now, but in her dreams she wants to LIVE - passionate loves, a fun life, great adventures, big accomplishments, wild sex. She is convinced that she can't have that while M to me. Further mind reading says she sees being M to me as dooming her to the life / M her parents had.

I think her EA was an attempt to look for part of it.