Leap of Faith

[sandycay]

I vote for option #3. You were good to say what you did to your kids. I never lied to mine (except they didn't/don't know about OW...but they didn't ask) or bad mouthed him either. He made the freaking choice.

You know like I used to explain to my H DIVORCED people don't hang out at each others homes and recreate together. They just don't. They don't grade your yard cause it will save you money, they don't pay for insurance....

Honestly, when I approached my H with D papers.... you know what he said

H: What will you do for health insurance, You need that

M: I'll take care of it out of the money you give me

H: well, that's dumb because that will just cost more money and take money from the kids

M: well, you don't need to worry about what i do with the money you give me, I'll budget it in

H: That just does not make any sense

M: So, your telling me I should stay married to you so I can have health insurance?

H: (didn't say a word)

M: That's not going to work for me because in order for me to move forward in my life, I can't be married anymore and I can't think of a more ridiculous reason to stay married to you "just so I can have insurance". (I mean it was nice that he was offering but really I do have some pride).

H: okay, if that's what you want

M: That's not what I want, it's what you chose, now here's what you need to do so this will be a cheaper process..(since he was all about saving money)

blah blah blah

Anyway, My H was always trying to save money too during the Seperation. But My DB coach says doing stuff around the house is a privledge for those who choose to live in it. Your going to have to be able to afford these things on your own anyway... why not start now. 180, 180, 180.


Blessings,