Update - Just wanted to keep in touch with everyone.
I actually started dating someone. Yup Mules has taken the plunge. After 4 dates I felt like I was getting very close to her and then ran like the wind. Was just moving too fast for me. We connected pretty quickly in a way I haven't felt for quite some time (yes Greek her eyesight is just fine!) I felt overwhelmed between the boys, work, home, coaching...etc. It also felt surreal. So I bailed. Here's the thing - she followed. Understood my mind set and has agreed to take it on my terms for a while. She's a great person. It's very strange for me to be communicating with someone who actually cares about what's going on in my life and listens and asks me about things. I realized I haven't had that in ages.
The thing is I am keeping it from the boys for now. And that has been hard on me. I don't want any secrets between us and am the worst liar you have ever seen. If I cant look S15 in the face and tell him something then I struggle. Feel like he sees right through me. So I made an appointment to see the therapist on Friday to see how to handle. The boys are very fragile right now and I don't want to cause any more stress in their lives. I am prepared to put any R's aside for a while if necessary. We'll see.
I would tell more about STBXW but that would change the tone of this post. She continues to be neglectful and nuts. Her family has reconnected with me and have been a tremendous help to me at the house and with the kids.
In another bizarre twist, the neighbor's W keeps texting me asking me to come over her new place for dinner. You can't make this stuff up! I can't even reply to her, can't bring myself to do it.
Next step for me is to sell the house the minute I can legally. I'm starting to feel stronger and stronger every day.
My Dad was right - Tough times don't last, tough people do.
I hope you are all well.
Puppy - I heard a rumor you are in the alt uni - we HAVE to connect there!!
Strength and Honor!
M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09
"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.