Tomorrow is D-Day

[dday101798]

I hear ya. It's taken me a long time gain that maturity and control, but belive me, if she is po'd now and you aren't even talking, wait til the day comes when like me, you do talk, and she wants to argue and you do as I and tell her to find someone else to argue with, there is no sense in it and talk to me when you are done. NOW THAT pisses her off to no end.

As far as the kids go, I was the disciplinarian in the M. She could never handle them, and now that she can't (or isn't supposed to) drink around them I can only imagine. Then for a while she felt that it was fitting for OM to take my role, ohhh hell no, that came up really quick in court. So now, she wanted custody, she got it and all the responsibility that goes there in.

pretty funny, Saturday when I picked my boys up, they were all in a yelling contest. STBX comes at me "he is being a complete jerk! He needs his attitude checked! about S10. S10 starts to fire back in defense, and I just calmly said, hey, get in the truck and leave your attitude behind please. He did, after a few reminders and even apologized to me and that just sent her into a frenzy.

In your situation, perhaps you are right and lack of communication is a good thing, not only to avoid uneccessary confrontation, but also as you point out, to stay out of other issues that don't even really involve you (fight with D), and lastly, to work on self control. I know how it easy it is to slip, we all do, an I had my fair share of foul ups, but guess what? Not any more