I have typically been in #3 and somewhat #2. I'm sure I have done #1 at some times, but I think truth be told, I have self-censored and tried to read her signals rather than even ask the question (that would probably be a .5 on the list).
I think there is another option between #3 and #4 that is what I am striving for. I will continue to be a romantic and understand the importance of being seductive and getting her motor running throughout the day and evening, but doing so with an expectation that goes somewhere beyond optional and somewhere less than taking. In the past, I would do all the things to get her motor running and when it didn't happen, I would get frustrated and ultimately angry. I need to control that, GAL, but also make sure she knows it is not acceptable and she needs to reciprocate or problems in our marriage are going to get worse. After all, if she is not going to initiate, I can live with that, but she can't have that and reject me because that leaves us no options.
I would like some suggestions on a sitch this morning. We have not ml for 8 weeks, which is an all-time record. I was ok with most of it because it was medically needed, but I asked her in bed last night (too late, just when we were both falling asleep) when her period was going to be done. She replied that it "pretty much is" and we fell asleep. I am leaving tonight to travel until Sunday night and I was thinking of heading home early for a mid-afternoon ml. I could get home about 2 and she needs to go get the kids at 3. I am thinking of sending her a tm this morning to start her engine, but want to do it in a way that tells her I expect this and it isn't just a suggestion. Any ideas for content?
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
