I have to somewhat agree with some of the stuff braveheart says. A person does need to move forward with their life to be able to let go of some of the pain. Hanging on only brings more unhappiness.
Sugar coating is not the way to go. Sometimes a person needs to have the sting of reality put upon them. I have to keep quiet at time for fear of upsetting people with posting.
Each of us are at different stages in our situations. Each of us handle things differently. I have on occasion battled with a few people on here (some that had come to be good friends) because we saw things differently. When you are standing and fighting for your marriage you tend to sugar coat things for others, when you have decided to move on a person tends to be on the outside looking in and seeing things that others can't.
I have more than once wanted to tell someone to just hang up the towel and move on BUT then that would just be taking away their hope. Some people only have hope to hold onto. If that is what gets them through each day then why take it away? I have to admit there are a few people who tend to take a little longer to see things but sooner or later they will. We work through things at our own pace.
Even though Renee is holding onto hope of her xh waking up one day, I think deep down she knows he has moved on and it is time for her to move on also. She is just doing it at her pace. I have seen some improvement with her. It is slow moving but she is getting there.
